Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Brody's Scribbles... Washington Post Angers Homophobes

Jeremy Ames and Taka Ariga  Photo By The Washington Post
By Brody Levesque (Washington DC) Mar 9 | It is always so interesting to me to hear select parts of the American population whine and complain about things that, and I quote: "Are too Gay!" Last week for example, the venerable First Lady of Journalism in the nation's capital ran a dignified picture of two men kissing after receiving their application to be married in the District as the new same-sex marriage law took effect. The reaction to that picture would have made you think that the Washington Post had just molested a choir boy. Yup, looks like there's some seriously unhappy folks in the Post's readership here in the DC area eh?
In response, Washington Post Ombudsman Andrew Alexander published this outstanding column answering those who criticised the paper's decision:

Readers react to photo of two men kissing

Powerful photographs can have lasting impact, and a Post photo of two men kissing is an image that many readers can neither forget nor accept.
The photo, which ran on the newspaper's front page and online last week, captured Jeremy Ames and Taka Ariga kissing outside D.C. Superior Court on the day that the District began accepting license applications for same-sex marriages.
Almost immediately, I began hearing from upset readers. That’s normal when controversial photos appear in The Post. The same thing happened recently when The Post published disturbing images of Haiti earthquake victims. Typically, the complaints quickly subside. With last Thursday’s photo, they continued into Friday, through the weekend and even today. Early this morning, before D.C. Superior Court began issuing licenses to same-sex couples who had applied, a caller phoned to warn that he would cancel his Post subscription “if I see another photo of men lip-locking.”
A few of the readers have engaged in rants, often with anti-gay slurs. One called me to complain about “promoting a faggot lifestyle.” Another complained about the photo in an e-mail to the two Post reporters who wrote Thursday’s story about the licenses: “That kind of stuff makes normal people want to throw up. People have kids who are being exposed to this crap. I will be glad when your rag goes out of business. Real men marry women.”
But most simply said The Post had offended their sensibilities by publishing the photo, especially on the front page.
Ann Witty of Woodbridge wrote to say she had canceled the Post subscription she has held since the 1960s.
“I am 65 years old and I realize that the world is changing rapidly – much more rapidly than I would like it to,” she e-mailed. “While I realize that the Post must report on these changes – even the ones with which I do not agree – I feel that the picture on Thursday morning was an affront to the majority of your readership. It is not something that I want coming into my home. I believe that even your editors know that it would have been better placed in the Metro section and that it would have mitigated its impact to do so.”
Wrote Lee Miller of Columbia: “I would appreciate it if your cover pictures would not be so disturbing where my kids can see it easily on the kitchen table... please don’t shove this “Gay” business in our face. This is something that should have shown up on an inside page or two (without the picture).”
In comments to the ombudsman’s call-in line (202.334.7582), one reader said, “the picture of two guys kissing makes me cringe.” Another called it “ridiculous,” adding: “Put it on page 10 or page four, put it in the paper, but I do not like it right there where I can’t avoid looking at it.”
Many threatened to cancel their Post subscriptions, and more than two dozen did. Post circulation vice president Gregg Fernandes said that late last week 27 subscribers canceled, specifically citing the photo. In contrast, The Post reported only two cancellations immediately after last July’s ethics uproar over its ill-advised plan to sell sponsorships to off-the-record “salon” dinners at the publisher’s residence.
Did the Post go too far? Of course not. The photo deserved to be in newspaper and on its Web site, and it warranted front-page display.
News photos capture reality. And the prominent display reflects the historic significance of what was occurring. The recent D.C. Council decision to approve same-sex marriage was the culmination of a decades-long gay rights fight for equality. Same-sex marriage is now legal in the District. The photo of Ames and Ariga kissing simply showed joy that would be exhibited by any couple planning to wed – especially a couple who previously had been denied the legal right to marry.
There was a time, after court-ordered integration, when readers complained about front-page photos of blacks mixing with whites. Today, photo images of same-sex couples capture the same reality of societal change.

1 comments:

Tim Trent said...

I think there is something missing form this article. Let me try to explain.

Ever since I have had a sexuality I have been a gay man. I have wanted to kiss the boys I was attracted to as a boy and the men I have been attracted to as a man. But that is not the same as seeing two men kiss.

The first man/man kiss I saw, even as a gay man, perturbed me, made me uncomfortable. I was not used to seeing it and my upbringing made it look wrong, and wrong in capital letters. It looked as wrong as a child putting his hand into a fire looks wrong.

And yet it is no more and no less than I wanted to be able to do - to embrace the object of my affections and desires and kiss him.

The same thing does not happen, did not happen, when I see two women kiss, even romantically or passionately. My upbringing has made that easy to see. But my upbringing of men showing no emption, of men not showing affection, of men not kissing, that made me uncomfortable.

It took me some time to let my brain allow me to accept that two men kissing is normal, and yet, as a further paradox, I found nothing at all difficult with pictures and videos of two consenting adult men making love to each other.

So I had a serious difficulty as a gay man when I saw people doing what I wished to do.

This means that I understand the outcry. To me today the Washington Post picture looks normal, healthy, happy and yes, posed! Several years ago, when I was less comfortable with who and what I am that picture would have made me feel uncomfortable.

I'm glad they ran it. I long for the day when being homosexual is not a strangeness for other fplk, when it is seen simply as one of the many facets of normality. This picture will help that.