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1.0 out of 5 starsPoor Credibility
Reviewed in the United States on April 26, 2013
I may not have your degrees, but I am a DV survivor. I am also the mother of a borderline personality daughter, the same age as Jodi Arias.
You have seriously set back victims of DV with your RIDICULOUS defense of Jodi Arias. Yes, I said RIDICULOUS. DV victims that stay with abusers most always feel TRAPPED, like they have nowhere to turn, no way out. Many live under the threat that "if you leave me, I will find you and you will be punished", leaving many REAL DV victims afraid of leaving. Arias on the other hand MOVED to another state, she was NOT dependent on Travis for anything, she was even seeing other men-apparently Travis had not instilled much fear in her! She CHOSE of her own free will to continue a sexual relationship with him and she CHOSE to kill him when it was not going the way she wanted it to go. The mere fact that you REFUSE to even consider that your assessment of Jodi as a victim is wrong, speaks volumes about your credibility. You participated in trashing the DEAD victim when there was NO evidence of MOST of the allegations against him! You took his childhood and then his kinky sexual relationship with Jodi and you filled in/fabricated the rest of his character to suit your agenda of blaming the MAN for his own demise and that is sickening.
Fact: Travis had no history of abusing his past girlfriends and there were several, he treated them like ladies. (FYI, most DV perpetrators don't suddenly become abusive-there are red flags in their past relationships-especially those that were long term, yet the opposite was shown here) Sure, months into the relationship he didn't treat Jodi like a lady-but have you considered that she didn't BEHAVE like one either?! She encouraged & enjoyed the sex talk, the kinky games/role playing, & the fantasies yet somehow AFTER his death, his participation in those activities is used to demonize him and make a victim out of her? Seriously?
Let me remind you, Travis was a VICTIM of stalking and MURDER. REAL DV victims don't STALK their abusers trying to win them back! Real DV victims do not drive hundreds of miles for an afternoon of sexcapades with their abusers.
Also note, Jodi became Mormon within WEEKS of meeting Travis, she had her sites on him from the start, long BEFORE he allegedly "abused" her. In the end, Jodi was crushed & enraged because all of her efforts to win Travis were failing! How DARE he not succumb to special efforts to win him!
Nearly ALL of Jodi's allegations are not proven, yet you were apparently quick to judge Travis while turning a blind eye to the inconsistencies & manipulations of Jodi while labeling the DEAD victim an abuser.
Facts: Gas Cans, grandpas missing gun, Cell phone OFF while in state of AZ, rental car, every effort to hide she was in AZ BEFORE she even got there.....yet once it was proven she WAS there, the story changed to masked bandits, and when that didn't work, it changed to self defense, the stalking. All of these facts have been dismissed by you, after all, the man MUST be the abuser, after all, he was bigger and stronger & he used her for sex so he MUST be punished!
Since when is waking up to oral sex while IN BED with a man whom you are actively engaged in a sexual relationship with...a sign of ABUSE? That just blows my mind! If every woman who has woke up to their boyfriend/husband initiating sexual contact were to call their man an abuser because he failed to get consent first....half the male population would be considered abusive!
This case has cost you any credibility, I do hope your practice is rapidly declining as the REAL DV victims see through your own agenda of blaming the MAN at all costs.
For a professional, it is just so hard for me to even fathom that you can't see the borderline personality traits in Jodi, having a daughter with BPD I guess it might be easier for me to see it but it is so incredibly visible in Jodi. She is a performer & a pleaser, she will do and say what she thinks will please others especially if it wins her the attention she craves, and God help those that cross her if she hasn't already turned her focus onto another potential victim. She will say and do whatever it takes to save her own skin, to blame others for her misdeeds. I know this routine only too well. You as a professional should recognize it yourself, but have chosen to turn a blind eye because it suits your agenda to paint the murdered victim as a monster so you can pat yourself on the back for defending the perceived helpless damsel in distress! Or did you come to Jodi's defense for the money? Or was it for the publicity & you thought it would give your book more attention....if that's the case you must have really believed that the public, and especially REAL DV victims would easily be fooled!? Whatever your motivations, it was not to aid REAL DV victims, it actually cost them more because they are less likely to be seen as the victims they are as the world looks at Jodi and sees YOU claiming she is a DV victim when in fact, she was a careful manipulator with an sinister agenda who MURDERED a man because he failed to give her the love she thought she would win through converting to his religion & participating in kinky sexcapades, how dare he not show his appreciation for her sacrifices!
Your book holds no credibility now, what little it may have offered to REAL DV victims is moot now, REAL DV survivors see through your agenda and current DV victims will have to fight much harder to be taken seriously because someone who holds themselves out as an expert chose to defend an abuser while crucifying the DEAD VICTIM.
